All that giggling...., I would like to get a sample of whatever you had before that interview :).
The 3 piece suit you mentioned wearing to that wedding. Was it a guy's 3 piece suit or a feminized version of a suit: cinched waist, femme shoes, makeup, jewlery etc?
Back in school, I kept hearing stories about a computer programmer who went to work crossdressed from the neck down.
I saw him at a friend's wedding. From the neck down he looked like the most elegantly dressed woman. Shiny blue dress, heels, stockings, bracelets, necklaces etc. From the top up he looked like he fell off of a box of cough drops. Bald on top, big bushy uber nerd epic beard.
The people at the wedding were way cool, I don't think anyone but me took more than a passing glance at him.
A year or so ago I briefly dated a woman who I could tell was really into me. She was also an old school feminist. She went out of her way to open doors for me, pull my chair out, taking care of problems in restaurants and even offering to walk me to my car. I found it to be very exciting, especially in combination with her strong attraction to me. I felt a bit like prey and I liked it.
Your bit of the conversation about role reversal with feminization reminded me of that. I think the role reversal of the domme acting like a man while treating the guy like a woman would add a lot of power to it. I agree, on a psychological level it would be a deep power exchange.
Again, what was making you giggle so much? I'd like some! :)
Ha ha, I don't smoke pot. I think Axe just cracks me up.
I wore a vintage men's three piece suit. It fits me very well, but it is definitely not tailored for a woman. Thought about wearing my "packing piece", but then decided it wasn't worth it to freak out my relatives that much. Plus I didn't want to steal the spotlight!
As far as chivalry goes, yeah, I am not a huge fan of it in most cases. It's okay sometimes when the male identified person is not uncomfortable when I return the favor. I don't think that is an old school feminist thing (I would consider myself third wave more than second wave as it seems to be the most sex positive of all the "waves") but perhaps the cultural effect of the previous generation of feminists.
I do love taking male and female identified people (and all those in between) and assuming the more dominant (chivalrous? mannish? however we understand it?) role!
>Thought about wearing my "packing piece", but then decided it wasn't worth it to freak out my relatives that much. Plus I didn't want to steal the spotlight!
Probably a good move :). Still, going to a wedding in a man's suit is pretty gutsy.
> an old school feminist thing
She is in her late 30s, though I am not sure which school her influences came from. I can remember hearing women as a kid suggesting doing reverse chivalary so I chalked it up to that. It really, really, made me feel flush.
> (I would consider myself third wave more than second wave as it seems to be the most sex positive of all the "waves")
I agree with that. That seeems like one good aspect of the 3rd wave. Otherwise I tend to think of the 3rd wave as the bat shit crazies. No disrespect. I'm not an expert and your knowledge is superior to mine on this subject.
>I do love taking male and female identified people (and all those in between) and assuming the more dominant (chivalrous? mannish? however we understand it?) role!
The second wave is the group of "crazies" I think you are referring to... Nancy Chodorow's generation of "all sex is rape" sort of jargon. Unfortunate group, but necessary for an evolution to take place.
For the most part, yeah, it's fun to play around with the chivalry thing. Immediately if it makes someone uncomfortable when I do it back to them I know that we will have our differences.
In most situation reciprocated chivalry will not register anything on me, I will just say "thank you" and move on. Other times, maybe it is a chemistry thing, it will make me swoon or wide eyed. Maybe it is the subtle power shift. It can be a fairly strong button.
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All that giggling...., I would like to get a sample of whatever you had before that interview :).
The 3 piece suit you mentioned wearing to that wedding. Was it a guy's 3 piece suit or a feminized version of a suit: cinched waist, femme shoes, makeup, jewlery etc?
Back in school, I kept hearing stories about a computer programmer who went to work crossdressed from the neck down.
I saw him at a friend's wedding. From the neck down he looked like the most elegantly dressed woman. Shiny blue dress, heels, stockings, bracelets, necklaces etc. From the top up he looked like he fell off of a box of cough drops. Bald on top, big bushy uber nerd epic beard.
The people at the wedding were way cool, I don't think anyone but me took more than a passing glance at him.
A year or so ago I briefly dated a woman who I could tell was really into me. She was also an old school feminist. She went out of her way to open doors for me, pull my chair out, taking care of problems in restaurants and even offering to walk me to my car. I found it to be very exciting, especially in combination with her strong attraction to me. I felt a bit like prey and I liked it.
Your bit of the conversation about role reversal with feminization reminded me of that. I think the role reversal of the domme acting like a man while treating the guy like a woman would add a lot of power to it. I agree, on a psychological level it would be a deep power exchange.
Again, what was making you giggle so much? I'd like some! :)
Soapy
Hey Soapman,
Ha ha, I don't smoke pot. I think Axe just cracks me up.
I wore a vintage men's three piece suit. It fits me very well, but it is definitely not tailored for a woman. Thought about wearing my "packing piece", but then decided it wasn't worth it to freak out my relatives that much. Plus I didn't want to steal the spotlight!
As far as chivalry goes, yeah, I am not a huge fan of it in most cases. It's okay sometimes when the male identified person is not uncomfortable when I return the favor. I don't think that is an old school feminist thing (I would consider myself third wave more than second wave as it seems to be the most sex positive of all the "waves") but perhaps the cultural effect of the previous generation of feminists.
I do love taking male and female identified people (and all those in between) and assuming the more dominant (chivalrous? mannish? however we understand it?) role!
xoxo.
>Thought about wearing my "packing piece", but then decided it wasn't worth it to freak out my relatives that much. Plus I didn't want to steal the spotlight!
Probably a good move :). Still, going to a wedding in a man's suit is pretty gutsy.
> an old school feminist thing
She is in her late 30s, though I am not sure which school her influences came from. I can remember hearing women as a kid suggesting doing reverse chivalary so I chalked it up to that. It really, really, made me feel flush.
> (I would consider myself third wave more than second wave as it seems to be the most sex positive of all the "waves")
I agree with that. That seeems like one good aspect of the 3rd wave. Otherwise I tend to think of the 3rd wave as the bat shit crazies. No disrespect. I'm not an expert and your knowledge is superior to mine on this subject.
>I do love taking male and female identified people (and all those in between) and assuming the more dominant (chivalrous? mannish? however we understand it?) role!
It stuns me and is really fun!
Soapy
Hey Soaper,
The second wave is the group of "crazies" I think you are referring to... Nancy Chodorow's generation of "all sex is rape" sort of jargon. Unfortunate group, but necessary for an evolution to take place.
For the most part, yeah, it's fun to play around with the chivalry thing. Immediately if it makes someone uncomfortable when I do it back to them I know that we will have our differences.
Okay, avoid women with second wave t-shirts :)
In most situation reciprocated chivalry will not register anything on me, I will just say "thank you" and move on. Other times, maybe it is a chemistry thing, it will make me swoon or wide eyed. Maybe it is the subtle power shift. It can be a fairly strong button.
Soapy
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