Friday, January 27, 2012



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Badabing, bitches! Get up against the wall and raise your fucking hands up, because The Violent Fems are taking no prisoners this time. It's (near) Valentine's Day, which means we will rip your hearts out and stomp on them, mob style. Why, you say? Because we got beef, and we got it BAD.

You wanna prove you can be part of the "organization"? You wanna prove you're a stand-up guy? Then PM or email Mme Veronica: to get an interview for being attacked. THE CUT OFF DATE FOR BECOMING AN ATTACKEE IS FEB 12TH. If you just want to come and observe, you can show up Feb 19th, pay $10, and wish you were part of the action.


We consider this party to be far far removed from the run-of-the-mill fetish party in the sense that it is more a theater in the round. We dress up, we have certain people on whom we stage “attacks” (the attackees), we use “gang” implements, mostly, rather than whips and floggers, and we’re also friendly. You will not come to the party and stand around being bored waiting for someone to pay attention to you. If you are patient and don’t get in our way, we eventually say hello to everyone. You just have to be patient and respectful. Should I state that one more time? Patient and respectful, thanks!

There are two tiers, as you well know: $10 for observers, and $50 for ATTACKEES Don’t know what an attackee is, but are interested? Again, PM Mme Veronica or email me at

**FYI, the party starts promptly and ends at 11pm, so if you show up at 10pm, you might miss the hot action! If you come before 7pm, you will be thrown out, and not in a good way.**

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

My recent letter to The Center for Sex Positivity


I just want to say that I think your organization is really fantastic. I used to live in Seattle, and thanks to your community (it was called The Wet Spot then, circa 2000) I was introduced to BDSM and the concepts of SSC when I first started exploring this lifestyle. Not everyone gets such a supportive, informed first experience, so I want to say thank you.

I also have a question about some of the language used to describe sex positivity, particularly on your FAQ section, describing What Is Sex Positive Culture:

"The sex-positive movement is an ideology which promotes and embraces open sexuality. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation."

My question is about the wording of the particular phrase, "all consensual activities are fundamentally healthy". I am a dominatrix, so have had many people consent to playing with me. I know very well what this looks like. However, I have also had colleagues be given consent (in transactional and lifestyle situations) to perform activities they were not fully trained in, or perhaps knew were extremely dangerous but did anyway (a sub came to me after someone had caned his kidneys- in my experience, this is universally unsafe). This sort of manipulation can mask itself as consent, but is clearly not what you mean to be included in the phrase.

So, although many activities are consented to, whether they are "fundamentally healthy" or not, I believe is sort of a naive notion. As a kinky person, I believe that it is the right of any individual to have whatever done to their body that they wish. I would hope that it is SSC if done in a BDSM context.

I know that the above statement is a carefully thought-out political movement-wide notion. It is also on many other blogs and websites that I have found about sex positivity. I am hoping that someone could possibly qualify the phrase, or start a dialogue to make it more precise. Perhaps by adding "safe and sane" to it, which are already a part of our lexicon.

Thank you for your time.

Sincerely and Warmly,

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