... And we're back!

I meant my website, you perv!

Stay tuned for a new look to my main site, mistressveronicanyc.com, more pics, and all new everything!  I'm coming for you, 2014!



xoxo.

Technical difficulties...

With my website, which should be fixed by tomorrow.  I know that's a long time to wait in order to gaze longingly at my photos, but in the immortal words of ME, "Tough titty".   And there is always Twitter.

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Different Loving and a bit on Ava Taurel

I was flipping through an old copy of Different Loving looking for an interview with a dominatrix, and found the best possible example I could have hoped for.  I have had this book since I was 14, and did not recognize her name back then simply because it was before the internet and well, I was pretty young.  I would have loved if she had written her own book, as I feel she would have been able to articulate many of the complexities of BDSM and professional domination that we all complain have not yet been properly addressed.  Alas, we are left with whatever we can find.

Working in the days before the internet, men would have had to come see her based on her print ad and perhaps a phone call.  Here is how she perceived the interaction:

"Let's say a person first submits to the clothes and to the persona he imagines within these clothes:  I feel that as the session progresses, he will feel my personality, the strength of my soul, of my being, of my intellect, and will submit to that.  I assert my personality over his image of me.  The image of the clothes will always be there.  It will always fascinate him, but at the same time, as I reveal myself, especially as a real being, I tend to stand away from the cliches of dominance.  I tend to avoid having a submissive say, 'Yes, Mistress, thank you, Mistress.'  I cannot stand those typical phrases.  I want different kinds of responses.  I look for things to say that are different from the standard; it must be something that appeals to me, so I don't feel that I'm just a tape recorder repeating certain monotone phrases that were scripted for mistresses."

Much of the interview is focused around what she wears, however, she also discusses her insistence that her work be seen as art.  She was so committed to thinking this way, that she said she would become distraught whenever a client would simply say to her afterward, "What wonderful stress relief!"

I find her fascinating in that she was far ahead of her time in terms of understanding and communicating the delicate psychology of BDSM.  For instance, what impetuses are behind certain fetishes, the need to feel pain, and the taboo associated with all of it.

There is a documentary about her, however, I prefer watching this (very frustrating yet illuminating) episode of The Morton Downey Jr. Show.  He is a tyrant, as should be expected, but Ava remains steadfast and articulates her points quite well regardless of his many interruptions and accusations.  Alan Goldstein (the owner of SCREW Magazine) is also on the show, and is surprisingly astute.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxxoVVyfvpo



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New Photo's!

I'll let them speak for themselves...

This is an oldie, but a goodie, which I posted to Twitter last summer.  Not all of my photos get posted on my website, so...  Click this link for more:  FOLLOW ME RIGHT NOW, PUNK

Going Poseur-Stomping!

Unfortunately for you, I am not in this photo.  However, it expresses my essence:

xoxox.

Elementary Dear Domina, Elementary (NUDITY!)

Tonight I watched the episode of Elementary which featured a dominatrix, and I have to say, it was not all that bad.  I was expecting the worst, really, I mean it is network television.  

Although I am a die-hard Sherlockian I just keep missing it because frankly, I forget to watch it, but also because I find Lucy Liu to be a subpar Watson.  Not because she's a woman (clearly), but because they failed to make her interesting. Also, her acting is not exactly Shakespearean, let's face it.  Watson is a doctor, but he is also a gambling fiend, something of a womanizer, and probably has PTSD or whatever its Victorian equivalent is from being a surgeon in the war (read: occupation) of India.  He/She is actually quite a well-formed character, and to see them being played so one-dimensionally...  I digress.

Anyway-- I actually didn't mind the depiction of the dominatrix. I thought it was a good lead-in, and the fact that the police treated her nonchalantly even while she was wearing leather and latex was a nice touch. She was not treated with any level of suspicion, and in fact knew Holmes through a mutual academic interest (not through the seedy underworld), which was refreshing. This of course, is done to throw off the audience, because of course they would be ready to believe that a dominatrix was involved in a crime (I would assume).

I also thought it clever that neither the actual suspects or even the victim were involved in BDSM at all.

Also-- did anyone else notice they made a visit to Purple Passion? The scene where the clerk starts talking about how marginalized kinky people are while telling them they need a subpoena is priceless.


The other drama based on The Canon (hee hee),  the BBC's Sherlock, also features a dominatrix in one of their episodes early on as Irene Adler.   The series is much more satisfying than Elementary in a way because they draw directly from the original stories and weave them together to create a more complex contemporary tapestry.  At first, the thought of a dominatrix as Irene Adler (referred to as The Woman by Holmes-- one of two people to ever have outsmarted him) seems quite logical.  She is depicted as an adventuress in the original stories, is a well-known opera singer, (apparently not a respectable profession in Victorian times- think somewhere along the lines of Degas' ballet dancers) making her somewhat of a charlatan.   Hmmm...  sort of like being a dominatrix today, no?  I'll answer that for you-- Yes.  However-- and I do mean to spoil it for you if you haven't watched it-- they fail to imbue the dominatrix character with any of the original Irene's capacity for deceit.  On TOP of that, we are expected to believe that she is perhaps attracted to him (um, NO) and even weakened by his affections.  For instance, a code she expects to flummox Holmes with turns out to be a reference to her "longing" for him (gag me with a forklift) and also, he of course comes to her rescue near the end (It IS the 21st century right?  Just checking).  If you are familiar with the original stories, this would never, ever have happened.   Irene Adler was a consummate professional and would only ever be interested in making sure that Holmes could never catch up with her.  The entire point is that she was the "one who got away", and the reader is left to wonder whether it is because she escaped before Holmes could catch her or whether it is because she would never bang him.  Excuse me, take a turn around the room with him.   All in all, it is probably a combination of both, but Holmes' characteristic Victorian repression would never let him admit that to himself or anyone else.  Which is why we love him. 

Well, since you've clearly read or at least skimmed to the end of this, I leave you with a treat.  It seems the BBC isn't all that bad, as they show Ms. Adler in her skivvies.  You can thank me later:  

I can dress scary any day of the week...

But it's never as fun as doing it on Halloween!   

Halloween is my favorite day. And my SUPER DUPER FAVORITE thing to do is go to a haunted house. Going upstate to look at the foliage is pretty terrific as well.

There is a new haunted house "experience" that I suppose is really difficult to get tickets for.  I totally turn into the asshole who chases after the newest, trendiest "happening" when it comes to haunted houses.

Here is the ad (more like a movie trailer):

BLACKOUT



If you don't want to go for the jump, this is the list of things you have to agree to:

YOU MUST WALK THROUGH ALONE.

You must be at least 18 years of age.

Stay on the marked path at all times.

You will be prompted to do certain actions. Please do exactly as you’re told. This is for your safety.

There is absolutely no speaking allowed inside. You can, however, scream as loud as you’d like.

Do not ever touch the actors.

Do not ever touch the walls.

You must wear a protective mask and carry a flashlight at all times. (We will provide both of these items for you. Please do not bring your own.)

A PROTECTIVE MASK?  WHAT??  That is the best thing I've ever heard!  The most horrifying thing to me though is that you have to go through the maze alone.  My only saving grace when walking though a haunted house is that I get to hide behind the person I'm with and shove them in the way of the monsters!  I'd totally be screwed. 

Ah well, if anyone goes, let me know how you like it!  Or better yet, score some tickets and take me!

In the meantime, here is Stefon dishing on the hottest Halloween "happenings" in NYC:

http://screen.yahoo.com/weekend-stefon-halloween-000000179.html

xoxo.